So many of you have supported Jeff and I during our years of infertility. You've offered us your shoulders to cry on, your prayers and your own tears on our behalf. We couldn't have made it this far without you. Along the way, many of you would ask "How are you doing?" and I would hem and haw, trying to think up an answer that was socially acceptable. Most of the time I just said "I'm ok! How are you?"
Catherine Hockmuth wrote a very good article for the New York Times the other day about what it's like to be infertile. Much more gracefully than I ever could, she explains what we all feel and think every time we fail, every time we lose another pregnancy. This blog is mostly about adoption, I know. I promise not to beat you over the had with infertility (much.) But we wouldn't be here if it weren't for that long grieving process and I'll bet that we are not the only people you know who are going through this. If you want a thoughtful read, try this article and then let me know what you think. In the mean time, I'll be organizing my closets.
My sweet, sweet friend. I know that I have easily admitted that I do not understand how you must feel, but yet I did not expect that article to bring so many surprises for me.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that you have had to go through so much. That this has had to be so hard.
I know that my tears are miniscule to the amount that you have shed, but they are tears of love that I offer to you from across the miles.
I love you,
Char
I have been wanting so much to hear of your journey, but haven't wanted to "force" you to rehash the same story over and over. So imagine my excitement when I got your "yearly letter" today and found a website. I immediately checked it out. Wow! What a road you have walked. Your strength and ability to share your journey with humor and wit is inspiring. I found myself wiping away tears one moment only to be laughing out loud the next. I know that YOUR child is waiting for you, and when you find her, the joy and love you feel will be indescribable. Please know that you are in my continued prayers and I am honored to call you my friend.
ReplyDeleteBlessings,
Joanna
Dear Linda & Jeff,
ReplyDeleteWe were so thrilled to get your yearly letter today! I checked out your website right away.
I feel happy and sad for you at the same time. Happy that you are on your way to finding your baby and so sad that you have both gone through so much pain to get here. Know that we are thinking of you and hoping your waiting will be over soon. I read this article and it made me cry knowing you are going through this and I am too far away to give you a hug.
We love you and miss you, thank you SO much for making the trip to my shower and our wedding it meant so much to both of us. Sorry things were so crazy, I wish we could have spent more time together. Hope we can make a trip to DE in the spring!
Love you so much and keep on truckin' man!
Love,
Jen & Tom XXXOOO:)